29/07/2008 by Tina.

Sometimes when you notice the same thing cropping up again and again in different places you just have to look into it. Which is how I came across the Hawaiian healing system Ho’oponopono. There are many good and informative sites on this, not least of all www.hooponopono.org (the official site for Self I-dentity which is a self-healing form of the system) if you’re interested in learning more.

The healing work done in this system takes the form of cleaning toxic memories from our lives (both current and karmic) with the help of the divinity (call it the source, love God, whatever your preference) so we can return to a state of oneness with it. There are several techniques for doing this, the most widely known being the mantra, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you”, but it seems hot chocolate is another:

“Drinking hot chocolate releases error memories in the subconscious that put gain first as opposed to doing something because it is divinely correct to do. Drinking hot chocolate release error memories that cause violence in relationships, smoothing things out so that relatinships are not about gain but about love.”

Bring on the Cadburys! I know many women who would be only too happy to undertake this kind of therapy work.

There is a serious side to Ho’oponopono of course, and I have to say in the few days I have been practising I have noticed a significant difference in the way I feel. Once I have learnt all I can I will add a page to www.edensfields.co.uk/diyhealing so others can benefit from it too.

In the meantime, I wonder if room temperature Dairy Box counts as hot chocolate…..?

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23/07/2008 by Tina.

What a buzz and a fantastic start to the the day!

A couple of colleagues and I have just saved the lives of a mother duck and her 8 ducklings who were very foolishly attempting to cross the road in front of a bus, amid shouts of “orange sauce” from a less than sympathetic passer by. And how cute they were as they struggled to get their tiny bodies up the kerb and waddled off, oblivious to the smiling faces they left in their wake.

Not wanting to lose that feel good factor I anchored it NLP style so I can bring it back any time I like. It’ll also come in handy when dealing with negative feelings and collapsing anchors associated with them. You can learn more about this technique and other NLP patterns from  http://www.amazon.co.uk/Introducing-Neuro-Linguistic-Programming-Joseph-OConnor/dp/1855383446?&camp=2486&linkCode=wsw&tag=edesfieunl-21&creative=8922

 Quack, quack, quack….

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21/07/2008 by Tina.

Did you know that apparently a child laughs on average 300 times a day whereas adults only manage a meager 15 times?

The health benefits of laughter are well known, but a surprising thing that people might not be aware of is that the increased levels of immunity gained from a good old rib tickling, git busting laugh, last for up to 12 hours! So not only is it fun at the time, but the feel good factor keeps on going.

Which is all well and good if you feel like laughing, but what about when you don’t? I keep a supply of funny emails which I can trot out whenever I’m feeling down, and no matter how bad it seems, they always make me giggle. In fact I’ve just looked through them again and laughed ’til I cried, so that’s my immune system fired up until teatime

Here’s some of the funnies - hope you get 12 hours worth out of them too:

Letters to the editor 

The government tells us that we are eating too many pies and dying of heart disease, then in the next breath they’re telling us we are living too long and there’ll be no more pension money left for us. I wish they’d make their bloody minds up.

John

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‘Alton Towers - Where the magic never ends’, or so the commercial says.  Imagine my disappointment when it closed at 7.30.

Colum Hill

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I am married to a Taiwanese lady, and people often ask me if she was a mail-order bride. I find this very insensitive. The Royal Mail lose around
2 million letters and parcels each year, and to suggest that I would trust the delivery of my wife to them is insulting in the extreme. She was sent by DHL next day delivery.

L Palmer, London
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The government says that there are nearly 50,000 people with HIV in Britain , a third of whom do not even know that they have it. Is it just me, or is it a bit harsh that the government know and haven’t told the poor sods?

John Campbell, e-mail

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What’s all this nonsense about that 66-year-old Romanian woman being the world’s oldest mum? My mum’s 77. Beat that. Thomas J

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11/07/2008 by Tina.

I keep this picture in my work space to remind me that there are many ways to look at things. Just like the classic half empty/half full argument - it’s all about how you see it.

Science tells us (and my personal experience backs it up) that thinking positively has a good effect on our health. The film “Patch Adams” is based on the real life doctor of the same name who introduced fun and laugher to hospital wards knowing that happy people got better quicker. Conversely of course thinking negatively will have a bad effect on health.

A large study called “The Immune System - Influence of Aging, Psychosocial Factors and Physical Activity” found that when healthy people continually thought negative thoughts (known as rumination) the number of blood cells that fight infection were reduced. This effect was much greater in older people and those who were already ill.

So let’s start seeing the glass as half full; seeing things in a more positive light. This is called reframing.

I’ve often been accused of being anal or too particular because I like to have things right and just so. This may frustrate my more laid back family (who think I’m weird), but is a positive boon when it comes to locating that one tiny little error on a spreadsheet that stops all the sums from adding up which no one else can spot. And for that same behaviour, my colleagues just love me!

 So I’ve decided I’m not (the very negative sounding!) “picky” - I’m THOROUGH. And that’s what I’m sticking with

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08/07/2008 by Tina.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUmO-ELaR_o

Above is a link to one of the most inspiring songs I’ve ever heard - I’ve been EFT tapping to this for years and it never ceases to make me feel good. These are the lyrics:

It’s been a long road
Getting from there to here
It’s been a long time
But my time is finally near.And I will see my dream come to life at last
I will touch the sky
And they’re not going to hold me down no more
No they’re not going to change my mindCause I’ve got faith of the heart
I’m going where my heart will take me
I’ve got faith to believe
That I can do anything

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07/07/2008 by Tina.

They say in order to write a good CV you should explain any gaps in your work history, so maybe parenthood should be included. After all, it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I learnt more from being a mother than from any job I’ve had or course I’ve been on!

Might look a little like this (for mother please also read father as this applies to them too):

Job title: Mother

Date (from/to): 1986 - death

Employer’s name and address: Masters Aary, Ben & Tom - Home

Hours: 12.00am - 12.00pm

Main duties: Nurse maid, cook, confidante, launderer, bank, taxi driver, cleaner, bed maker, medication dispenser, counsellor, referree, juggler, teacher, crutch, bottomless pit of money and patience….

Isn’t it a shame when all those valuable skills are not recognised and are lumped together as being “just a mother”, as if that is something less than even the most menial of jobs. And often it’s us mothers who are the worst offenders for demoting ourselves - “I’m just a mother”; “I’m only a housewife”; and the corker “Oh I don’t work, I’m just at home with the kids”! Don’t work? Give me a full time job any day - at least by law you get a lunch break and annual leave!!

So no “just” or “only” about it really. Maybe it’s time to stop using those words and stand up and be counted for what we are and what skills we possess.

Might even put parenthood on my CV……..

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03/07/2008 by Tina.

Is it possible to always be anything? Not according to these guys, “No one can consistently get everything wrong. Such perfection does not exist.” (Introducing NLP - Joseph O’Connor & John Seymour)

For “wrong” you could substitute:

• at fault
• stupid
• to blame
• angry

in fact anything you’re “always” accused of. But the principle remains the same.

I used to hold the belief that I was “no good and to blame for everything” and it took me many years to challenge that belief. Looked at literally, that belief means I am responsible for Mugabe’s terrible crimes against the people of Zimbabwe and my father dying of lung cancer. It means I am to blame for HIV and AIDS and whether or not the sun shines.

Clearly I’m not, so clearly my statement is wrong. Too many times though we take ownership of these global statements without even thinking about what they mean. As children we had no way of knowing if they were true or not, so had no choice. But now as adults we do.

Have you really always been wrong? If (like me) you’re 43 years old, that means you have lived over 13 1/2 MILLION seconds so far. Now can you honestly say of that huge number there wasn’t at least a few, at the very least one, second of being right? If there were, “always” is out of the window. And isn’t it conceivable that if we have accepted without question the “always” label that maybe we have also mistakenly accepted being the thing we are accused of when actually we’re not?

I think it’s time we challenged these beliefs, not only about ourselves but also about others, for aren’t wrongly held global beliefs at the base of many atrocities and most discrimination? Let’s concentrate on the times, however few they may seem to be, when we are happy and responsible and good, etc. This way the next time someone says, “Your always….”, rather than just accepting it, believing it and so BEING it, you can stand up and say, “No I’m not!”

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