03/01/2011 by Tina.

“Time is a funny thing. Well, so is a bunch of other stuff, maybe that’s the point. Time puts things where they go. Or more precisely where we think they should go.

Music is a good example. Without time, there would be no music. A song would be an instant of noise, every carefully crafted note piled on top of one another, one hideous bwang! But with time, a musician can select specific notes and align them in a desired order.

In order, that’s part of it. Time dictates a first, a second, and eventually a last. But the entire concept of something being first and another being last is just a component of the physical existence. Like a rock, which begins as a mountain, and eventually ends up as sand.

For us, there is no time. We are here now, before, and after. Time only makes things more interesting. Like music, without time, life would be a single instant, every experience, good, bad or otherwise, blurted out all at once. No chance to even know what happened.”

Taken from “Awakening: Dead Forever Book 1″, available from Amazon both as a paper book and in Kindle format.

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26/02/2010 by Tina.

According to Zaphaiel, “Whether you enjoy them or not, every experience is perfect in as much as it is an experience” (www.twitter.com/Zaphaiel).

Can that be so when you’re in pain? Can that be so when you’re in despair? And if it is, what does that mean in terms of healing?

Perhaps the healing comes from being in that place where you have complete faith that the universe, and you, are doing/being exactly what you should be. But what do you think?

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04/12/2009 by Tina.

We’re all human, even those of us who work with therapeutic techniques. So I have no shame in admitting that I have trust issues. You probably guessed that from my previous post!

I am proud to state though that I’ve been working on this using “The Process” - the newish technique I mentioned a couple of posts ago. You’ll find more information on this on our sister site www.yourhealingfriends.com as we develop it further and start to offer this healing process to others.

In the meantime I’m walking my talk and doing “The Process” myself, with some wonderful results. My sense of peace is greater than it probably has ever been and I’ve had some very profound insights into my life’s path.

Fingers crossed that the post ‘Trust (part 3)’ simply reads, “Resolved”!

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29/10/2009 by Tina.

I’ve recently been reminded that you can’t really know what’s going on with someone, and more importantly how that affects their behaviour, until you can put yourself in their shoes.

It can be very easy to make judgements, and let’s be honest - we all do it! But the trick is to be able to re-evaluate your judgement when you do know and move on to a greater understanding and empathy rather than to hold on to grudges.

I know it’s easier said than done and that we all have people in our lives that we just don’t feel able to do that with. But at least if we make a start with the less emotionally charged situations, we might get there in the end, and preferably before it’s too late.

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26/10/2009 by Tina.

I’m pleased to announce a research project being carried out which is based on the first of the Free Healing Lessons available from www.edensfields.co.uk/lessons - “In a sea of possibilities…”.

It involves a committment of just 30 days and is as uncomplicated as the lessons themselves. If you wish to join please email tina@yourhealingfriends.com for more details.

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09/10/2009 by Tina.

Sincere apologies for the extremely long time since my last post.

My interest in health has not waned, in fact, far from it! We are currently working on a new(ish) technique which is working really well. I say ‘ish’ because really it’s an amalgamation of techniques that are have been around for some time. We’ve just combined them in a new way.  But more on that later.

In the meantime, the free lessons are still available from www.edensfields.co.uk - don’t be fooled by their simplicity! Follow these simply techniques through, revisit them occasionally, and you’ll find you have a cornerstone of good emotional health.

Sante!

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05/12/2008 by Tina.

I listened to a very interesting feature on BBC Radio Four’s “All in the Mind” programme (http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/science/allinthemind.shtml) last week about what scientists and psychologists believe really makes us happy.

And although many people may assume it’s money or material wealth, researchers have discovered we need a portion each day of each of the following:

Connecting with someone - loneliness has a devastating effect on emotional health.

Being active.

Taking notice and being aware - living in the moment.

Learning something new and challenging ourselves.

Giving something back.

I personally would add to that, spending time with positive and supporting people - we all know how draining a miserable person can be on our own happiness. Thankfully just like yawning, smiling is infectious

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24/11/2008 by Tina.

I think perhaps the messiest relationships we have are with our own family - under what other circumstances would you both love and hate the same person and stay in contact with them even when they drive you to complete distraction?

They say blood is thicker than water, but is it healthy to stay in a relationship with someone who causes you pain just because you share DNA? Would it not be better to surround yourself with people who support and love you for who you are, even if they are not family? I would argue that yes it is.

In the news over the past couple of weeks there have been 2 particularly horrific stories of mothers, one of whom had a relative hide her daughter whilst she told the nation of her despair over her loss. And why? So they could cash in on and share the reward offered for the child’s return. The other abused her son and allowed others to do the same, until the 18 month old boy was dead.

Both of these poor mights would have been better off with a stranger than the family who were supposed to protect them and didn’t.

In Prochaska, Norcross and Diclemente’s six stage programme for change (Changing For Good - http://www.amazon.co.uk/Changing-Good-James-O-Prochaska/dp/038072572X?&camp=2486&linkCode=wsw&tag=edesfieunl-21&creative=8922) they talk about the importance of environmental control, where you “restructure your environment so that the probability of a problem-causing event is reduced”. If you were trying to lose weight you’d probably make sure there were no biscuits and cakes in the house, and if wanting to quit smoking you’d stop buying cigarettes and hang out in smoke free zones. It makes sense to not put yourself in situations that will cause you problems.

So doesn’t it also make sense to remove yourself from a harmful environment even if it is within the family? I’m not saying it’s an easy thing to do, or even that it has to be permanent, but:

“… if you have a splinter in your finger and it becomes infected, you can take antibiotics and apply antiseptic cream to deal with the infection, but if you don’t remove the splinter, it will undoubtedly become infected again.” (Free Healing Lessons, http://www.edensfields.co.uk/lessons.html)

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03/11/2008 by Tina.

(This is more of a musing than a posting as of yet.)

Trust - what is it and what do you do to get it back when it’s gone?

 My trusty Collins dictionary defines trust as:

“Reliance on and confidence in the truth, worth and reliability of a person, thing or faith.”

And we often talk about trust needing to be earned. But just how do you earn it and when do you know when someone has done enough earning? Can it be earned in the same fraction of time it takes to destroy it or can it only come with time?

I found some really complicated equations on google to do with weighted expectations and the clarity and delivery of said expectations, but nothing that will show me how to learn to trust someone who has repeatedly let me down.

 Hmmmm - more musing needed here.

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31/10/2008 by Tina.

I’ve decided my new favourite season is autumn.

Having taken a walk across the sports fields near to where I work on a bright, crisp day surrounded by the most vibrant reds and golds and yellows, I was instantly lifted.

Whilst it’s lovely to see the greens of summer, the striking bareness of winter and the emerging buds of spring, surely you can’t beat the beauty of the fall.

Perhaps it has something to do with the colours themselves, after all, red reportedly:

“… boosts our circulation, raises blood pressure & gets our heart pumping faster. It raises our libido, increases determination & gives us the will to move forward. It pushes us to break free from the past & demands that we live in the here & now.”

And orange/gold is supposed to enliven and cheer.

Certainly did the trick for me!

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